Marriage requires "love," a word we often use with vagueness and sentimentality.
We may assume that love is some rare and mystical event,
when in fact it is our natural state of being it is the basis of true friendship.
Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is in the emergence of the larger self. It is the finding of one's life by losing it. It is where we are no longer I but also we.
Such is the privilege of spouses to be each themselves and yet another; to face the world strong, with the courage of two.
No ceremony can create your marriage only you can do that by actions of love, patience, dedication
and perseverance. Through talking, listening and understanding. Through helping, supporting and believing in each other with tenderness, humor, cooperation and play. By learning to forgive, respect and appreciate your differences. By deciding every moment to let go of being right and instead focus on being happy and connected in intimacy and friendship.......
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength
while loving someone deeply gives you courage"