in front of your family and friends the words and rituals performed
will be an authentic expression of your love and commitment,
the values on which you can create a happy married life…….
I am a mother, a wife, a wedding officiant and a counselor with over thirty years of experience. I have also led and designed communication seminars and workshops in the US and Europe. I was ordained as an Interfaith Minister in 1993 at the Cathedral of Saint John the Divine in New York City. I have officiated at some of the finest restaurants and hotels in New York as well as small intimate weddings in people’s homes and at many famous NY landmarks, Central Park is one of my favorite places. For elopements I offer special packages. I also perform out of state weddings.
I believe that marriage is a beautiful and transforming adventure.
Wedding ceremonies, although sacred,
do not have to be somber,
they should reflect the happiness of the occasion.
One of the greatest gifts in my life is to witness and participate
in the creation of a new family.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzche
Marriage requires “love,” a word we often use with vagueness and sentimentality.
We may assume that love is some rare and mystical event, when in fact it is our natural state of being it is the basis of true friendship.
Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together. The secret of love and marriage is in the emergence of the larger self. In marriage, we are no longer only an I, but also a we.
Such is the privilege of spouses to be each themselves and yet another; to face the world strong, with the courage of two.
No ceremony can create your marriage only you can do that by actions of love, patience, dedication and perseverance. Through talking, listening and understanding. Through helping, supporting and believing in each other with tenderness, humor, cooperation and play. By learning to forgive, respect and appreciate your differences. By deciding every moment to let go of being right and instead focus on being happy and connected in intimacy and friendship…….
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage” – Lao Tzu